We have so many ways to describe our hurting relationships: Vicious Cycle, Impasse, Loggerheads, Downward Spiral, Lonely Together, Overwhelmed, Stuck. “Why can’t we just stop hurting each other?” 

Couples are usually surprised (and relieved!) to hear that these feelings and sentiments are really common.  Often, partners’ attempts to protect their emotions and the relationship (through anxious pursuit or through withdrawing) actually end-up adding to a cycle which pushes their partner away. 

Sound familiar?

While it may feel like closeness and intimacy is impossible, couples counseling using Emotionally Focused Therapy can bring healing by creating new cycles which promote closeness and return emotional safety to your relationship. As you can imagine, couples counseling can be hard work.  Nothing good comes easily. That said, many couples see positive results quickly – restoring hope for future outcomes. 

If you’re wanting to start together down the road to rekindling and reconnecting your relationship,  contact us today.